School is just around the corner! It’s a great time to check in with your daughters and the young women in your life. Have things changed over the summer? And I don’t mean does she have a tan and great memories from camp. I mean, has her breast size changed? I know – this can be a pretty uncomfortable topic. I wrote a fabulous post (in my humble opinion) on helping your daughter buy her first bra, but what happens when she outgrows those bras? And more importantly, what happens if the little girl that you’ve raised suddenly has a more womanly figure … and is totally uncomfortable having it?
Below are my tips on the importance of “braducating” your daughter on what a normal cup size is and how you can help create a positive image of her changing body so she won’t spent her mornings taping down her breasts like Roberta in Now and Then.
Recently I read a very upsetting article by Fox News on breast growth disorders among teen girls. It mentioned that some young women suffer from Macromastia or Giantomastia, an abnormal enlargement of the breasts. The author claimed that girls with this condition “reported lower quality of life, lower self -esteem, more breast pain and more eating disorders, compared with those without the condition.” Now, I do think that young women with very full breasts have a hard go of it. It can be very confusing and upsetting as she gets used to large breasts. They can be painful and they can cause unwanted attention (sexual or otherwise). However, young girls with very petite breasts suffer their own traumas! They get teased for having “mosquito bites”, bullied about their shape, and struggle to fill out the shapeliness of a prom dress. I don’t care what size their breasts are – teenagers will find something to hate about their developing bodies.
That’s why this article makes me so upset. Its misinformation only adds to pressure for young girls to feel “normal”. It claims that Macromastia and Giantomastia are rare conditions “characterized by excessive growth of the breasts”. Now, I’m no doctor, but breasts grow during puberty. What’s worse is their unscientific cup size cut off for this “abnormality”. Apparently the “condition” starts at a DD cup, and a B cup is considered “normal”. Having been a bra fitter for more than 25 years, I can tell you that this outdated cup-sized thinking is traumatic. I will admit, there is a difference between typical growth and sudden excessive growth. But that doesn’t mean anyone over a DD has some kind of condition. The most popular size that I sell in my shop is a tie between a 32F and a 34G. These are young women, old women, skinny girls, curvaceous ladies – you name it! Believe it or not, a B cup is considered petite! I want to “braducate” the young women of the world. I want to start them off on the right foot with the proper knowledge:
Cup size is all relative to back size, so a 38D and a 30D are not even close to the same cup size. In fact, a 30D is about 4 cup sizes smaller than a 38D. There is no standard for cup sizes, and it’s just a number and a letter. That’s it. The most important part of your bra is how it fits and how it makes you feel. Ignore the size, and ignore articles telling you that a DD is abnormally huge. Every pair of breasts is unique, just like every woman. There is no “normal” when it comes to breasts and cup size. What you have is yours, so own it! And when you wish for fuller breasts or smaller breasts, remember: the grass is always greener on the other side. xo Linda
Doctors don’t have a cure for Macromastia or Giantomastia. The main treatment for these conditions is breast reduction surgery. I’ve helped many women who have gone through it and had very pleasing results. But I’ve also helped many women who found relief with the right bra. Once I found them a comfortable and flattering bra in the correct size (for the first time in their life, mind you), they were thrilled! Breast reduction surgery is a personal decision. I encourage all women to try bras in the right size first, especially if she’s a young woman. Don’t think I have your size? Think again: I carry bras up to N cup!
Do you know a young lady who is self concious of or confused about her full cup size? Here are some tips for helping her understand her growing breasts and bra size:
- Be understanding. Even if you have petite breasts yourself, remember what it was like to be a teenager and get used to a brand new body.
- Get professional bra fitting help! This one is a no-brainer. Instead of trying to learn how bras run and what a D cup even looks like, take her to get a real bra fitting. Even if her breasts are petite and perky, getting her started on the right track with the correct size and advice is so important!
- Keep your cool. The worst thing you can do is blurt out “she’s WHAT cup size? A double WHAT?!” Not only is this harmful to her self esteem, it’s teaching her that she’s abnormal and undesirable.
- Tell her that change is constant. During puberty, let her know that it’s normal for things to change. AND that breasts are always changing: they will get bigger, smaller, and change their firmness and shape as the years go by. Be sure to get regular bra fittings with her as her breasts and body change.
- Let her know that she is fabulous! Poor self esteem runs rampant in teenage girls. Remind her that she’s amazing and unique- not just her body or breasts, but her brain, her ideas, her feelings, everything!
What was your experience with your growing breasts like as a young woman? Share your memories below!
Here’s to happy, healthy girls!